A conscientious person is one who attempts to do the right things, no matter how insignificant, at the right times. They look out for other people’s moods to make sure they’re not bothered by them. They try to be nice and frown at behaviors that are rude.
A conscientious person, on the other hand, can get their mood easily dampened when they don’t seem to be acting well or right. Or when someone else complains about them. This is different from not being accepting of criticisms but rather, more of questioning and berating themselves for not having known better.
A conscience is what we’ve all been imbibed with innately. There’s no running away from it. It serves as a measure to detecting and differentiating what is good from what is bad. Thus, it’s a major factor when it comes to personal growth and development.
But many times than not, we tend to stomp our growth and development when we over-exercise our consciences. The overdrive from this leads us to many more mistakes in the bid the correct the ones we’ve previously made.
That’s the power of guilty conscience.
A guilty conscience is when we’ve perceived that what we did or about to do isn’t right — and yet would have delved into doing them or decide to delve into them, respectively.
You don’t necessarily have to be conscientious to have a guilty conscience, however, it’s usually worse for a conscientious person to suffer from a guilty conscience — especially one who’s serious in their personal growth and development expedition.
In such a scenario when you feel guilty in what you might have done that is bad or about to, it often leads to a cascade of more wrong things which ultimately throws you off the personal growth and development wagon.
At that point, you’re lapsing and relapsing you tell yourself, and hence, not caring any longer — because after all, you already did worse and more.
But the ability to quit letting guilty conscience sway you start from the very way you allowed it to occur — this means tackling the problem from the roots.
What led you to feeling guilty? What did you do?
When you can identify the problem, then you can find a solution, on that level, to it. Desist from the actions that lead to these many chains of reactions from feeling guilty.
When you’ve allowed it to summersault to its ripple effects, break the chain. It’s difficult. I know.
But you’d sooner break it so that it doesn’t lead you astray the more.
Think of it this way; you ascertain that your actions don’t define who you are. That you’re bound to feel guilty when you’ve done something wrong. That’s innate. That’s human, — and feeling and acting as a result of guilty conscience only proves it and how good you are as a person.
So firstly, admit the following above, and then show yourself some compassion. Tell yourself that it’s okay and that now, you can return to the real you. And Slowly and steadily, return to your initial state.
As initially stated, guilty conscience cannot be averted when the propensity for it already occurred, but it’s the reactions that follow that is the bone of contention.
As expected from an emotionally mature person, when you notice inconsistencies in your moods or emotion, you observe it and try to find out what it is without necessarily trying to correct it, at least immediately . This is similar to when your conscience pricks you. Observe what it’s trying to tell you, monitor your reactions to it. Remembering not to act first.
Let me reiterate here that it’s difficult to but not impossible.
It will take constant mental training and practice to fully achieve these results. Even at that, you’re bound to relapse, therefore, make it a point of duty to pinpoint when your conscience is derailing by inculcating self-awareness and mindfulness, which are vital personal development tools.
You’re not alone. You’re a wonderful person. You have a conscience, which is the least trait most people in the world exercise these days. You’re conscientious. You care. These are some of the affirmations you should repeat to yourself when you’re about to berate yourself ceaselessly, or find it difficult to escape the loop.
Remove guilty conscience from the equation and watch yourself thrive in your personal growth and development journey.
Remove guilty conscience from the equation and watch your mind get freer to accomplishing better stuff you’re made of and for.
Remove guilty conscience from the equation and watch many aspects of your life get nourished.
Certain times when we display effects from a guilty conscience, we may be lucky to have a solid system or people that support us to show those aftermaths to, and willing to accept us back when we come back to our senses.
For instance, it could be in a relationship where you find yourself with someone who gets who you are, devoid of what you do from time to time, such a person is willing to be supportive of you when you derail and return back to your usual self. Such a person would not add to the cascade by blaming you more. And when you find such a person, reciprocate that manner of love and understanding towards them, and if worth it in other areas too, hold them tight.
What I mean in essence is that having a solid support system around you when you go off like this is beneficial to your sense of return as opposed to the toxic ones that will try to tear you down.
Once you have a solid support system, utilize them. Don’t feel bad too for doing so. They understand you’re on a journey and that journey requires you to keep going back and forth, until you reach your destination.
They know that all you need is support and compassion, and that you’ll get there. Use them. Get well, notice all the signs, and correct your ways.
And when you get to the final bus stop, don’t forget to include them in your acknowledgments.
Don’t forget to embrace and treat them right.
Don’t forget to do the same for the next person, — as a conscientious and/ or good person that you are.